I can say my marriage is happy FOR NOW, but the brief upheaval I have faced in the past, and the experiences of others past and present leave me under no illusions.
The fact that there are moments when I have felt like throwing my wife out of the window (and she likewise), even though those moments are far between, makes me feel unqualified to even counsel anybody about marriage.
That I still find other women's Ikebe attractive even with a ring in my finger makes me feel unqualified to counsel people about monogamy.
That is just my own personal story, and even my wife and I are NO WHERE near separating or divorcing, even as I don't know what tomorrow will bring.
I live each day as it comes.
People who are much wiser than me have had shorter marriages than mine.
That alone should show anyone that challenges and scenarios are as many as the grains of sand on Earth where marriage is concerned.
And that is why when I see someone who arrogates that kind of knowledge to him or herself, I know whoever follows that person is setting out for trouble.
If I ever divorce my wife or lose her to death (I pray not), I don't think I will remarry in the sense that I have done presently.
Yes, there will always be a need to have an "other half", but there is that space that will ALWAYS be exclusively mine.